Friday, 6 May 2016

Online Bullying

It's been a little while since I last blogged and since then my thoughts have been turned to bullying online, not just young people but adults too ... There seems to be  a minimal support network out there in terms of kids being bullied online,  I think there could be much more to help them too ... But what about adults? ... We get bullied and trolled too .... Where's the help? I've experienced several incidents over the years whereby I, along with friends of mine have been bullied by haters ... Some for no reason whatsoever just took an immediate and instant dislike to me ... I know it happens but I don't know why ... I get that we all aren't going to see eye to eye and get along but I don't understand the bullying side ... We are supposed to be adults...... Mature, seasoned adults and yet these people take to behaving like spoiled brats and spiteful playground children and drama queens .... Let me offer you some examples here..... Many years ago when Bebo was very popular I had an account ... I made what I thought was a good friend on there only to constantly be caught up in her drama, back then I thought she was being bullied because people were jealous of her, only to discover a few years ago, she is in fact a lying, manipulative bitch who targeted individuals for the sake of creating her make believe drama and oh feel sorry for me crap .... She was so cruel to these people, I've since learned that these people I am referring to are good people, they're so nice .... They were rounded up on by her because they knew she was a fake and tried to warn those close to her online ... I wouldn't listen to them, defending her to the hilt no matter the cost and I paid a high price along with those she singled out and bullied and lied about .... Since this woman has been out of my life, my online life has been bliss, no drama in the Bebo crowd as I call them as they are my long term online friends and I love them all dearly ... I've gotten to know these friends online who are actually so very nice and kind, they are no trouble at all, always sweet and I am so glad to be back in contact with them, especially the most recent ... I just wish I could turn the clock back and do it all different ... I'd never have gotten involved with this vile bully .... I cut her out my life over 2 years ago and she still trolls me on Facebook .... It's silly, she does it purely for the drama and attention ... She craves sympathy all the time, seeking attention through lies and stirring up shit .... At the end of the day people will believe what they want to believe, the day will come when they too grow tired of her shit and cut her out as well ... Until then it's their choice being friends with her, I hope she doesn't do the same to them that she's done to me and to my friends, but I doubt she will refrain from playing her games with them too .... She faked her identity, used the date my husband died as her fake birthday, pretended she was getting engaged/married and was young, blonde and beautiful ... I get that we use fake images as our profile photo's on social media, that's understandable to first of all protect our real identity and some of these images are way too cool LOL ... However, it should stop there, there is absolutely no need to make up such wild lies too.... The final straw for me was when she put a page up I'd made for animal rights to be deleted, she refused to accept what she had done, pretended she had no idea what I was so upset about and my best friend challenged her over it and got a confession in the end ... Too late, damage done, liar once more exposed and enough was enough ... There was no sincerity at all in her apology and then she went on the abuse rampage with her daughter in tow .... That was the end of that ... I grew sick of her always slagging people down in private messages to me too ... Drama is not something I'm interested in ... That's that, no more.

Second example is more recent .... I'm a member of a wonderful social website, we all share the same interest and it's a fun and friendly, upbeat place with some really lovely people on there .... I joined in July last year and made some great friends .... I'm in awe of a lot of them as their graphics are just outstanding ... Anyway, back to when I joined, someone decided to add me as a friend on Facebook ... A short while after she deleted me and removed me as a friend at this other website ... It's ok, I get it that not everyone is going to like me and for some reason she took a dislike to me and that was that .... Or so I thought anyway .... I then discovered she was foul mouthing me to other members saying I'm arrogant and think I'm better than everyone else ... I guess they needed to make their own minds up but I still to this day have no idea where that came from and why she said that ... She was very bitchy to me when I was promoted for want of a better term... She stated I hadn't earned it ... Ok if that's how she feels, it's her opinion I guess .... I left well alone, but I did notice that thanks to a flag counter I was getting regular visits from who I suspected to be her ....Months later it turns out I was correct .... Everything I was doing she was copying .... It all came to a massive crunch when a friend of mine even pointed it out to me .... When I checked back, literally nearly everything I'd done had been copied ... She went off on one about it accusing me of copying her .... So, I asked for an investigation ... Yes, she was copying me .... Then the barrage of abuse continued from her and a couple of her friends ... Every day through profiles she was making after being kicked off, abuse and more abuse ... I still get visits from who I assume is her but thankfully no more abuse ... Also this website is very hot on behaviour like that and they simply will not tolerate drama and bitching.  

Ok so back to what I was originally saying .... Bullying online ... Yes adults do get bullied .... I think overall so much more needs to be done to tackle online bullying on a larger scale from child to adult .... Yes we can follow websites protocol ... We can block on some social media accounts but it's not a deterrent ... In my view it's the social media website's easy way out .... It's their way of saying sort it yourself as we don't wish to get involved .... But it simply doesn't work ... By blocking someone you invite them to make a fake account and watch/troll you via that account .... It doesn't work ... Laws need tightening on online abuse, the sooner the better and I also believe more awareness needs raising of adults being abused online ... It doesn't just happen to children, maybe adults  feel too embarrassed and ashamed to step forward and talk about this, but that can make you feel even more alone and it can hurt even more and just add to the distress .... Yes we are all adults and should behave in an adult manner and be grown up enough to sort it, but not all adults behave like decent and responsible adults, some are actually very manipulative, nasty, jealous, spoiled, evil poisonous brats with an abhorrent agenda on those they choose to target .... Their venomous tentacles attaching and sticking to those who are easily sucked in by them.... Please be careful online and above all, be kind ... You don't know what someone is going through in their life .... If you cannot be kind then just leave them be, you really don't have to make them such a big deal in your own life to the point you generate hatred, spread lies and make them the centre of your sad little world .... Enough said.

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